It’s February. I know this, not because of the calendar, but because everything around me is red or pink or has hearts all over it. For some, this is a time to shower their bae/boo/hun with tons of love. For others, it’s a constant reminder of their singlehood. It can also be a time of unfair pressure to “prove” love or even worse, the gift competition. Is there too much attention being placed on this one day? ( I wish I could hear your responses 🙂

Let’s get one thing straight, I am not against celebrating Valentines day. Ok, now that we got that out of the way, let me share a few thoughts.

What really matters when it comes to love – according to me:

1. “If I only show you love one day out of the year, we have a problem!”, says my husband. Man, do I agree with him! Our marriage is more than just a day. It’s more than another piece of jewelry, flowers that will make me sneeze, or an overpriced dinner. If this is the only day that I know my husband loves me… we got issues. I’ve learned a lot from the way he expresses his love for me. He’s not a big gift giver and that’s ok because it’s the little things that he does that makes a big difference to me and our family on a daily basis. His year ’round actions express and confirm his words when he says, “I love you”.
2. Love comes from others. During my single days, I refused to sit around and mope about not having a man. The wonderings of “why am I single” were given zero access to my thought process. Instead, I chose to celebrate life with friends that I loved and loved me back. My bestie and I always laugh about the fun times we had during our single days and how we never felt like we were missing anything.  We simply lived life and did what we enjoyed to do – even if that meant binge watching weird movies with hot wings and mozzarella sticks (those were the days).
3. Spread love! I clearly remember one year when one of the mother’s (that’s an older member) from my church was in the hospital. She was so full of love and made me laugh until I would sprinkle (don’t act like that has never happened to you before). I decided to hang out with her and return the love, laughter and let her know I was there for her. That was one of the best days ever. I raided the hospitality refrigerator, made balloons out rubber gloves and we had a party until she feel asleep way after visiting hours were over. I was so thankful for that day. She passed away some time later. The thing is, I know she knew how much she was loved simply because the time we spent together that Valentine’s day.

Whether you are single or married, let this season be a reminder that we are to spread love throughout the entire year. It’s pretty simple and so much easier to do.  What’s your take? Share with us below.